This blog has really touched alot of people. More and more people pull me aside to share their stories, encouragement, need encouragement, or just to say "I read it." So many have just said "thank you", that someone finally voiced what they couldn't say.
CNBC doesn't always mean infertile. Even I didn't realize that at first.
Recently these stories have been shared with me: a friend is CNBC because they lost their child in an accident, another lost theirs to a car accident, another gave theirs up for adoption because they knew they couldn't care for them at such a young age and gave them up for a better life... Miscarriages, infertility, life and death... there are so many reasons for CNBC.
But every day we encounter people who don't understand, who speak from their ignorance (again, used as Webster uses it "lack of knowledge"). We always need to think before we speak. So many of these people I meet have been hurt by people who, even after hearing there is a reason for them not having children, make jabs at them - purposefully getting that 'hit' in. I have learned to deal with those people on my own, but it breaks my heart to hear how other people have been hurt: being excluded at baby showers... made fun of... called out in groups...
Is there an answer to it? How do we stop the hurt/ignorance? For those of us with CNBC, it's a personal choice. So many of chosen to stay silent, some like me have found strength to answer honestly and finally talk about it, some fight back with anger... (Which I know we all want to do sometimes.)
For now, I keep talking, sharing, and posting...
thanks for reading...
