Tuesday, May 15, 2012

I am sorry to have to address this, but I need to let some people know what is appropriate to comment on here and what is not.  I have the security settings pretty high for this site, having to approve every comment.  Now I am very thankful for that setting this week.

This blog/site is open to the public, that's the way I want it to be.  But it does not need to be abused with foul language, harsh comments or extreme venting.  A few nights ago, I received multiple comments for approval that were exactly that.  Cussing will not be approved by any means, harsh language or insults will not be tolerated, and goodness knows I understand we need to vent sometimes - but it needs to be kept in check. 

I will not disclose who tried to post these comments, but for their reference and any others in the future - please be respectful of us and others on here.  Your language is not welcome.  We try to encourage on here, not enrage.  Any comments like that will not be approved and posted. 

Thank you all for your support and sharing this CNBC blog with people in your lives.  People keep coming to me, thanking me for the support and strength this site gives them - the strength knowing that it's ok to speak up.  Hugs to you all, and we look forward to another year sharing this journey.  

Tuesday, May 8, 2012

Another year has gone by...

Looking back at last year's post, it's interesting to see where we are now.  This time last year we were being asked to be considered for a private adoption (which fell through on the child's family's side), my health was better than it is now, and we were still accepting our new found place in life with CNBC.  A year later?  Depression has come and gone, acceptance has set in, and we are trying to learn to be content with what we have been given. 

Many people have spoke to me, thanking me for this blog, for the strength to speak about infertility and CNBC.  We have reached over 1000 people and even into other countries.  That's amazing!  But also sad.  Sad that we have to fight for the right not to have children in today's society (whether we want to or not).  Society makes people believe we have to have children to be a real woman, or we are worth nothing and we are inadequate if we don't have children.  THAT IS ALL A LIE! 

To some people or families it means everything to have a 'blood' child.  Some of us are scared that our families won't accept an adopted child.  Sad, sad, sad....   

Some of us are told that we are not mothers and shouldn't care about mother's day, because our child passed away.  Are you kidding me?!?!?! 

Where am I going with all of this?  These are true instances that have happened to women recently.  What can we do about it?  Nothing?  No.  You can help me by honoring a woman in your life.  A woman who you know has lost a child, young or old.  A woman who you know is a mother to the children at church.  A woman who doesn't have a child in this life, but is an encouragement to younger women around her. 

Honor her, write her a letter, give her a note, a card...  Encourage her.  Love her...  remind her how much she is loved and appreciated.    Make this Mother's Day special for a CNBC lady in your life...