Looking back at last year's post, it's interesting to see where we are now. This time last year we were being asked to be considered for a private adoption (which fell through on the child's family's side), my health was better than it is now, and we were still accepting our new found place in life with CNBC. A year later? Depression has come and gone, acceptance has set in, and we are trying to learn to be content with what we have been given.
Many people have spoke to me, thanking me for this blog, for the strength to speak about infertility and CNBC. We have reached over 1000 people and even into other countries. That's amazing! But also sad. Sad that we have to fight for the right not to have children in today's society (whether we want to or not). Society makes people believe we have to have children to be a real woman, or we are worth nothing and we are inadequate if we don't have children. THAT IS ALL A LIE!
To some people or families it means everything to have a 'blood' child. Some of us are scared that our families won't accept an adopted child. Sad, sad, sad....
Some of us are told that we are not mothers and shouldn't care about mother's day, because our child passed away. Are you kidding me?!?!?!
Where am I going with all of this? These are true instances that have happened to women recently. What can we do about it? Nothing? No. You can help me by honoring a woman in your life. A woman who you know has lost a child, young or old. A woman who you know is a mother to the children at church. A woman who doesn't have a child in this life, but is an encouragement to younger women around her.
Honor her, write her a letter, give her a note, a card... Encourage her. Love her... remind her how much she is loved and appreciated. Make this Mother's Day special for a CNBC lady in your life...
Thanks Jenny. You truely are an inspiration!
ReplyDeleteI am running this race in honor of the child I should be holding in my arms right now. Maguire Gilner Angel Day 5k Run/Walk
Love to you, Lawrence and your fur-babies!
Mother's Day is a really hard day for me, not only am CNBC, but I myself am adopted and even though I love my mom with every ounce of my body, I can't help but wonder if my biological mother thinks of me on mother's day and my birthday.
ReplyDeleteMy sister-in-law is alway great, she has in the past given me a home made card with the words Happy (I want to be a) Mother's Day, she can't completely understand all the heartbreak of being CNBC since she has 3 boys of her own, but she is alway a supportive ear when i need one, and my only regret is that she has to watch her baby brother(who would be a great daddy) never be one, but i think that bugs me more than it does her.
Jenny is right... Let a CNBC(mother)know how much she means to you this sunday, because we may not be thier "real" mommy but i assure you if your children are special to us we Love them as if we were.
Thank you for this message:). As always you have touched my heart. I enjoyed visiting with you at Columbia:).
ReplyDeleteBlessings,
Kim