(Warning dear fellow CNBC, do not read this if you are sensitive today.)
Get ready to see the snarky side of me...
Some people we meet are encouraging and a wonderful strength in our lives dealing with Childless Not By Choice. When I tell someone about the negative comments we hear about not
being able to have children, they are shocked that someone would even
voice it, let alone think it. Then we meet someone like this...
A dear friend was faced with the stupidity of this selfish society. A woman, who has children, publicly-openly stated her 'opinion' on why some women can't have children. THIS IGNORANT WOMAN IS WHY WE NEED TO EDUCATE ABOUT INFERTILITY AND CNBC.
At a recent lunch outing, this woman started stating her 'opinion' that the reason some people cannot have children is because it's evolutions way of controlling the population. That there is something wrong with them and it's nature's way of weeding out. And she added that they should be happy they don't have to worry about what parents have to worry about.
What? That isn't just ignorance (Webster's definition of 'not knowing'), that is flat out stupidity. And she openly vocalizes this to anyone who would listen. Although I have never hit someone in my life, I dare her to say this in a room with a few of the CNBC families... It might not end pretty.
It's one thing to be an encouragement to someone, it's another to tear them down. Whether you believe in God (like we do) or you believe in evolution, there is still a human decency that you learn to 'hold your tongue' and not tear someone down.
It's the hurtful comments that we hear every day that make this even harder. But... it's people like my friend, who share her children with us, that lift us back up and make the ignorant woman crawl back to her own selfish little world.
I call her selfish because she obviously doesn't appreciate her children or home, wishing she didn't have to 'worry about' the things a mother should. Many of us would give anything to have those worries. But with adoption being cost prohibitive or your health not being strong enough to have children.... many of us can't achieve those dreams.
I pray that this woman's eyes and heart are opened to her callous words and attitude. She could be an encouragement to someone, instead she chooses to cut someone down.
"...every careless word that people speak they shall give an accounting for it in the day of judgement." Matthew 12:36
This is why I openly talk about being Childless Not By Choice and teach (or put in their place) people who do not know.